Four tools on how to avoid the dreaded friend zone
Ngure Kanjumba
Issue date: 2/2/10 Section: Opinions
The sad truth is that when it comes to 1st impressions with a beautiful girl, most guys listen to the little voice inside their heads, to guide them on how to approach the girl.
Now that little voice is usually years of 'advice' that their dear mommy fed them as they grew up. 'Advice' on just how to approach, talk to and treat beautiful girls.
And it probably sounds like this:
"Be nice and polite. Do not be rude. Always be a perfect gentlemen!"
Most guys take this advice and run with it; I mean, literally, try to be all that and a bag of chips.
But as a general rule, you should take everything your dear sweet mommy told you about making a great first impression with girls and do pretty much THE EXACT OPPOSITE.
Let me explain…
In our quest to fit into the image our dear sweet mommy drew for us, chances are that you will commit one or more of the top five sins to Entering the friend zone that we discussed last time.
So what you need to realize is that the reason most guys mess up their first impressions with beautiful girls is because they lack four important social tools.
Believe me when I say that with these four tools are guaranteed to have the girl longing to spend more time with you.
Just a couple of months back, I used these four tools to get the number of a really cute flight attendant in less than 10 minutes of conversation. She kept saying that she could not believe she was actually giving out her number.
Hmm… I wonder, is it too late to call now?
Anyway here are the four social tools you must have if you want to have any chance of avoiding the dreaded friend zone:
1. Confidence
Confidence is without a doubt the MOST IMPORTANT tool a guy needs to be a success in any girl he likes.
Why? Simply because confident men are attractive to girls; note that pride is not attractive but confidence is!
The problem is that confidence is not just a verbal attribute but also a physical attribute.
Now that little voice is usually years of 'advice' that their dear mommy fed them as they grew up. 'Advice' on just how to approach, talk to and treat beautiful girls.
And it probably sounds like this:
"Be nice and polite. Do not be rude. Always be a perfect gentlemen!"
Most guys take this advice and run with it; I mean, literally, try to be all that and a bag of chips.
But as a general rule, you should take everything your dear sweet mommy told you about making a great first impression with girls and do pretty much THE EXACT OPPOSITE.
Let me explain…
In our quest to fit into the image our dear sweet mommy drew for us, chances are that you will commit one or more of the top five sins to Entering the friend zone that we discussed last time.
So what you need to realize is that the reason most guys mess up their first impressions with beautiful girls is because they lack four important social tools.
Believe me when I say that with these four tools are guaranteed to have the girl longing to spend more time with you.
Just a couple of months back, I used these four tools to get the number of a really cute flight attendant in less than 10 minutes of conversation. She kept saying that she could not believe she was actually giving out her number.
Hmm… I wonder, is it too late to call now?
Anyway here are the four social tools you must have if you want to have any chance of avoiding the dreaded friend zone:
1. Confidence
Confidence is without a doubt the MOST IMPORTANT tool a guy needs to be a success in any girl he likes.
Why? Simply because confident men are attractive to girls; note that pride is not attractive but confidence is!
The problem is that confidence is not just a verbal attribute but also a physical attribute.
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